Jul 5 2011

NLP- what really CAN it do, potentially?

by admin

success and happiness

Who else wants more success and happiness in their lives?

No brainer really isn’t it.

Thing is, success and happiness mean different things to different people


Well, one of the tenets of NLP, is “If one human can do it, any human can do it”

Its a useful way of looking at things, and inspiring too.

Does that mean we can all have more success and happiness?

NLP researchers found people who had mastered excellence in a field, or in a particular behaviour, and found out HOW they did it. They then taught it to others who wanted to learn, creating a trail of replicable techniques.

I made a list of the ones I know, and it is below, and pretty exhaustive!

Because I have studied a bit of law of attraction as well, I have thrown in those techniques.

Have I tested all these personally? No. But I list them below.

And if you think any may be able to help you, I urge you to hop over to www.becomefree.co.uk and grab your free gift. And get in touch with me! info@becomefree.co.uk

List of NLP and LOA Success Patterns


Ideal self pattern– reclaiming a positive self image, this is essential to success and happiness.

Inner critic buster– Silencing that inner negative voice- again, crucial to success and happiness

Instant confidence boost- boosting confidence, good for success and happiness too!

The Confidence Switch – more confidence boosting

The Eyes of Love – self love exercises

What’s right with you?– Seeing our strengths and positive aspects

The Negativity fast– Realistic appraisal of the positive and strategies for good outcomes. It is hard to focus on success and happiness when the dominant focus is negative!

The Frame game– Viewing things in a realistic and positive way, for personal confidence and benefit.

Possibility questions- Engaging creativity and in an expansive way.

Empowering questions – Power coaching questions “What would you do if you could not fail?”

Put relationships in perspective – Ease with relationships.

New belief generator – Powerful ways of changing limiting beliefs

Dreamsetting – Going for your dreams!

Power nap, for well being – self explanatory

Inner smile – Based on Eastern ideas, firing the “endorphin” response inside, happy drugs on demand and no side effects!

Wealth Anchor – Creating an inner state of wealth. FEELING Rich.

Stepping into the zone

Daily Success Workout- Don’t leave home without this!

Overcoming stage fright- Self explanatory

Learning to spell Self explanatory

More independence in relationships Self explanatory

Healing trauma Self explanatory

Responding resourcefully to criticismSelf explanatory

Phobia cure Phobias can be cured in a few minutes with NLP, no matter how long you have had them.

Finding positive intentions – This is useful for seeing others in a more positive light

Respectful assertiveness Self explanatory

Grief resolutionSelf explanatory

Shame and guilt resolution Self explanatory

Positive motivation Self explanatory

Dealing with disaster -Positive coping strategies

Intimacy , safety and violence – Positive boundary setting.

Engaging the  bodys ability to heal – Mind and body are connected, and the mind can be engaged to heal.

Time line therapy– We all code time differently. It is possible to go “back in time” and heal the past in the present time.

Getting over:

Bad suggestions- we have all been told things that are not useful- but why still live our life by them?

Bad memories– self explanatory- the best thing about the past, is it is over!

Bad relationships– we all deserve to be happy- why let old memories still bother you now.

Bad decisions- self explanatory

Getting through:


Habits and compulsions



Big events



Getting to:



Meeting people

Important duties


Being more organised

Making more money

Making big decisions


Gradual Confidence Booster

Tapping into authentic power

Programming mind for confidence and  success

One point– based on ancient Eastern Martial Art, physical balance and strength.

Emotional Wisdom-engaging another important aspect of our perception.

Creating integrated self belief- self explanatory

The Possibility Generator- Creating new possibilities, what if…

The Motivation Switch– creating motivation on demand

Risk Taking for Fun and Profit!– upside and downside and calculated risk

On the sunny side of the street– positive aspects

Building resilience– self explanatory

ID Timeline- programming desired future– we all code time differently, with this insight, we can use this ability deliberately for more positive outcomes.

Public speaking confidence

Improved sports performance

The Voice of Confidence– the internal voice, and how we use it can make all the difference. How do you talk to YOURSELF in your mind?

Ideal performance state-obvious

Desperation destroyer– there is a saying in Hollywood, desperation stinks, here’s how to get rid of it.

Ideal clients and customers– understanding the mindset of the people you are selling to is clearly useful!

Ready for romance part 1

Ready for romance part 2

Threshold Technique– this is creating a deliberate experience of “the straw that broke the camels back”, to snap you out of an undesirable situation or habit.


Well formed outcome, sensory rich outcome– akin to visualization techniques

Ecology pattern- checking congruency– making sure the consequences of change are all in alignment with the highest good for the person.

Calibrating a state– finding out where someone is “”at”…..

Breaking a state-then snapping ’em out of it!

Pattern interrupt-habit breaking, physical habit, or thought habit

Anchoring– Using the idea of stimulus/response deliberately.

Parts, peace between them – integration– well a part of me wants this, and a part wants that… creating integrated aspects of ourselves.

Collapse anchors– getting rid of unuseful responses

N- Step Reframe– Behind every behaviour is a positive intention- this is a way of giving people other ways of getting the need fulfilled- a more healthy way.


* I will add more to this article soon!*

Aligning perceptual positions

Agreement Frame

Aligned self

Resolving internal conflict

Visual squash

Submadality belief change

Dis- identification pattern

Re- imprinting

Change personal history


Circle of Excellence

Decision destroyer

Core transformation

Meta- transformation pattern

Peace with parents

Loving yourself

Self- sufficiency pattern

Wisdom from inner sage

V-K disassociation

Access and manage resourceful states

State of consciousness awareness pattern

As –if frame pattern

Chaining states pattern

Sub-mod overlap pattern

Compulsion blowout, threshold

Transform mistakes into learnings

Intentionally compelled

Decision Making Pattern

Pleasure pattern

Reducing pleasure pattern

Break limiting synesthesias

Filing away memories

Meta- Modelling

Meta Model


Problem defining/formulating

Pacing a persona meta programs

Challenging and recommending meta programs

Meta programs change pattern

Disputing cognitive distortions

Content reframing

Context reframe

Reframe submodalities

Pulling apart belief synasthesia

Establishing value hierarchy

Kinesthetic hierarchy

Thought virus innoculation

New behaviour pattern

Day end review


Allergy cure

Grief Resolution

Pre grieving

Healthy eating

Resolving co-dependence

Speaking assertively

Responding to criticism

Establish good boundaries

Magical parents

Thinking and evaluating wisely and thoroughly

Disney Creativity

Spinning icons


Six step reframe


Positive motivation

Resetting thermostat

Perfect Body

Calm anchor

Someone who loves you

Friendly mirror, parts one, two and three

Motivation power

Tapping thin within

Compulsion destroyer


From head to heart

Systematic relaxation

Control stress for life

Instant Motivation

Problem solving techniques part one and two

Worry buster

Letting go of stress and worry


Letting go of stress and worry

Healing the past

80/20 rule, energy audit

Endorphin switch

I feel good!

The joy list


N- Step reframe, positive resources

Increase metabolic rate

Pain removal

Change words technique

Allergy removal


Time change

Boosting immune system to protect from cancer

The healing codes, (collapdes anchor)

John Gray recharging and decharging

John Gray, love letter, change content, turn back clock

EFT tapping on personal success block


WEALTH (Heart based)

A richer life

Rich Anchor

The meaning of money

The Shovel Exercise

From resentment to riches

Creating a richer world

Financial temperature

Imagining unlimited wealth

Income expander

Rich childhood

Value of savings

Lust to disgust

Feel good button

ABC list

Growing in financial awareness

Creating flow

Dealing with lust and greed

Life of value

Rich vision

Millionaires workbook

Double your money

Value based pricing

An expert at making money

Wealth team

Prioritizing excellence

Stepping intop wealth

Calculating risk

Choose vehicle

Fan club

Powerful analogies

Seeing through customers eyes

Wealth revealing questions

Doing more with less

Creating a rich future

MIND BODY/ Youthfulness/ Healing

Conscious breath


5 rites



Games to:

Create a life you love

Hold that note

Find the feeling place

It already happened

Match the frequency

What beliefs would you have

The collage

Close your eyes

Draw your desire

The TV game

3 minute visualisation


Create Abundance


Multimillionaire spending

Want what you have

Thankyou Universe

Already wealthy

“Since money is no object”

Ideal Body


Twenty beliefs about ideal body

Live in perfect body now

The Sculpuure Game

Body imaging game

Why do I want it?

Career Success

The interview

Expecting success

Gettting into character

Take stock of your assets


Create things/Objects

10 in 1 appreciation

What I really want

I’ll take one of those please

The immersion game


Create more self love

I love me

Hotter- Colder

The party has already started

Magic feel good

Filling fun tank

Perfect Mate

Stories- Bedtime happy ending

You have love now

My perfect mate in detail

Lovers high

Spiritual Connection

Quiet your mind

Unconditional love

Giving love all day

Visit future self

Who else will benefit

Secret giver

Health and Wellness

Whats healthy now

Stories of healing

Reasons for physical well being

Journaling my healthy life


Quick pick me ups

I command

Get happy questions

Ha ha ha

Life Touchstones

Dressing the part

Talk to a stranger


The Vibrational Library

Emotional Goals

  • Process #1: The Rampage of Appreciation
  • Process #2: The Magical Creation Box
  • Process #3: The Creative Workshop
  • Process #4: Virtual Reality
  • Process #5: The Prosperity Game
  • Process #6: The Process of Meditation
  • Process #7: Evaluating Dreams
  • Process #8: The Book of Positive Aspects
  • Process #9: Scripting
  • Process #10: The Place Mat Process
  • Process #11: Segment Intending
  • Process #12: Wouldn’t It Be Nice If . . . ?
  • Process #13: Which Thought Feels Better?
  • Process #14: The Process of Clearing Clutter for Clarity
  • Process #15: The Wallet Process
  • Process #16: Pivoting
  • Process #17: The Focus Wheel Process
  • Process #18: Finding the Feeling-Place
  • Process #19: Releasing Resistance to Become Free of Debt
  • Process #20: Turning It Over to the Manager
  • Process #21: Reclaiming One’s Natural State of Health
  • Process #22: Moving Up the Emotional Scale

Feb 11 2011

NLP quotes from its creator

by admin

Richard Bandler is the Co- Creator of NLP, with John Grinder.

Here are some of his quotes:
“We take the very best of what people do, synthesise it down, make it learnable and share it with each other – and that is what the real future of what NLP will be and its gonna stay that way!”

“The evolution isn’t over. We are the experience that the universe is having.”

“Do you want to know a good way to fall in love? Just associate with all your pleasant experiences with someone, and disassociate from all the unpleasant ones.”

“Brains aren’t designed to get results; they go in directions. If you know how the brain works you can set your own directions. If you don’t, then someone else will.”

“Disappointment requires adequate planning.”

“The greatest personal limitation is to be found not in the things you want to do and can’t, but in the things you’ve never considered doing.”

“The reason people have problems is that they have too much time to think.”

“The best thing about the past is that it’s over. The best thing about the future is that it’s yet to come. The best thing about the present is that it’s here now.”

“People always tell me with absolute certainty that they don’t trust themselves….!”

“If you say to yourself ‘It’s difficult to get up in the morning’, ‘It’s hard to cease smoking’, then you are already using hypnotic suggestions on yourself…”

“You know what ? Certain people think they will feel good if certain things happen… The trick is : you have to feel good for no reason…”

“Remember, it’s your own body, your own brain. You’re not a victim of the universe, you are the universe.”

“If you can’t enjoy what you have, you can’t enjoy more of it.”

“My mantra for silencing the inner dialogue is: ‘shut the  f*** up, shut the f*** up, shut the f*** up,…'”

“I made the door in my house left-handed, because I’m left handed. When people come in, they push the door the wrong way, and hit themselves on the door. And you know what ? People keep harder and harder to do it ! When something doesn’t work, try the same thing harder!”

“You are born with only two fears: fear of falling and fear of loud noise. All the rest is learned. And it’s a lot of work!”

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Feb 7 2011

No matter what, be positive

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I guess I had better finish this blog post, as I have had some feedback on it, not all of it positive!

As someone that has struggled to be positive at times, I have done considerable research into it- into how we use our bodies and minds to create our internal state,. and I am reading the Paul McKenna book “I Can Make you Happy

I am a huge fan of Paul Mckenna, he is one of the leading lights in the personal development world, and one of the studies he cites in his book is the fascinating “Happiness Project” created by a brilliant leading edge thinker, Robert Holden. PROVING scientific ally, that the way we use our minds makes

all the difference. If you have a moment, watch the first part below- the rest is on You Tube.

Life is precious and short. Isimply cannot believe that we are on this planet to be unhappy!

Feb 7 2011


by admin

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.

I read in the Daily Mail today, about this tragic case

I think it is important that the police who arrested this elderly couple understand this condition- don’t get me wrong, I respect the police very much, however, I do not imagine that police training covers understanding psychological disorders.

This is close to my heart as I had OCD in my younger years, and it is f****ng horrible.

And all your loved ones can do is sit there and watch you suffer in your own self created misery.

To an outsider it seems ridiculous, but not if you are the one experiencing it. It is a painful and debilitating condition.

And treatable.

Putting my NLP head on for a moment, if say, the manifestation is a fear of germs, then every time a thought about germs is experienced, the sufferer will experience the same intense anxiety that they did the first time the problem started.

The mind generalises as a learning principle, and for some reason if your Unconscious believes that the same reaction is necessary, then it will give you the same feelings as the first time the problem started.

Then.. create a ritual (in this case, washing hands) to neutralise the anxiety.

And repeat, again and again.

It’s a well intended over generalisation taken to a ridiculous extreme.

It could be a defence mechanism created earlier in life inspired by a feeling of powerlessness, or it could be something that happened that was over generalised. Lets say you were bitten by a dog. Do you still experience feelings of tension around dogs- all dogs- or many


Logically (Conscious mind), it makes no sense. But to the Unconscious mind it makes perfect sense.

So, what if you read once that “Germs are dangerous”.. perhaps with strong emotion behind it.. the pattern is set- and sometimes we (Conscious mind)  do not know where it comes from.

My thoughts here would be to either remive the original stimulus that caused the fear, or make the person not scared of the issue any more.

Look at this:

Does it scare you?

No? Probably not.

Yet you probably see them every day, and you know there are thousands in the world.

Yet their presence does not bother you.

There are zillions of germs in the world too. And yet, does their presence bother you? Probably not that much- ok there is a healthy caution in the sense of reasonable hygiene, but you do not freak out at just the thought of it.

If someone came to me with a germ issue, healthy caution not withstanding, I would use NLP techniques to make it as innocuos in their mind as an orange is in yours.

You might say, yeah well, Oranges don’t harm you. And I say, yeah, and neither do most of the zillions of germs that surround you every day!

So they are there, but so what? That’s the effect I would create here.

Or, I would use “Time Change Techniques”, which is a little different.


Or.. anyway, OCD is treatable, and the idea of this poor girls parents being arrested to me is absurd.

They deserve compassion and help, not to be arrested for goodness sake!

What I will say to anyone who is upset by this story, it is very very VERY rare. An extreme case. The VAST VAST majority of OCD is treatable.

I am living proof.

Feb 6 2011

Changez Charity Ball

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A while ago, Kate Hudson-Hall and Alan Piper came to Radio Jackie to leave some leaflets for Changez Charity.

Changez charity is a local charity for mental health and Well Being based in Twickenham. I read the leaflets, and rang Kate- and explained that I had recently qualified in NLP and would she like a guest therapist once a week. She said yes, and a new association was formed.

Did you know, that if you have an acute psychological issue, it takes 6 MONTHS to get seen, that’s enough to make you crazy, if you’ll pardon the choice of words. I do not mean to be out of taste, and of course you are not crazy, but sometimes you just need non judgemental help, and you need it quickly. And Changez provides that solution.

So, they had their charity ball last night in Twickenham, and I got to DJ it for them, and run the auction.

I also had the pleasure of meeting the MP for Twickenham, Vince Cable, and the Deputy Mayor Rita Palmer, who was lovely, and so enthused about her position in office, so keen to meet people and learn more about the area.

Vince Cable spoke very positively about Changez, and was very supportive.

We danced, and raised around £1500, which was great.

Feel no obligation of course, but if you would like to donate even a small amount of money, hop over to http://www.changezcharity.com/donations.html  and give what you can.

What a great bunch of people I met, I love this job!

And yes, I did ask Vince Cable about “Strictly”

PS I recorded an interview with Vince Cable

changez charity

Vince Cable MP for Twickenham- and nice guy!

Some piccies too when they get Facebooked to me.

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